When a parent begins a new relationship children experience a range of emotions, such as: Feeling insecure: Some children may feel their security threatened when their parents begin to date. Some children wonder if they will still be loved if their parent finds a new partner.
Make sure to ease your child’s fears by showing and telling them how much you love them.
As frustrating as this can be, your son's behavior is quite natural. If he's just gotten used to you and his father not being married, he might now fear that a stepparent will further complicate things and take up your time.
There's also the issue of territory — it's his house, you're his mom, this date is not his dad.
This year I came home four times from college and he was in town every single time.
To remedy my fears, I turned to seasoned dating coaches, Julianne Cantarella, MSW, and Elisabeth Lamotte, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, to figure out the biggest dating mistakes single moms make (and the smart moves that should replace them). "It's not only the woman who can be hurt if the relationship ends, but the children as well." A savvy single mom should wait as long as possible before introducing her kids to the potential boyfriend and never make the intro around the holidays, the experts advise."Women should gain a sense of her boyfriend's interaction based on how he treats her and possibly his own children if he has them," says Cantarella, who suggests erring on the side of caution. When asked what she wishes her mom would do differently while dating, Rachel, a smart young graduate student, replied, “I wish she would recognize her own impulsivity and emotional rollercoaster.She does and says things without recognizing that to some extent our whole family is dating this guy."Once the boyfriend is introduced there is no going back, and expectations are raised," she adds.What to do instead: Time is the best measure of knowing when to introduce the children.Children who have lost parents through death have similar feelings.