When you’re ‘in it’ (when you’re hooked in a relationship problem), it’s easy to get all muddled in your emotions and just lash out or do something to jeopardize the relationship that you will regret later.So, if ever you come across a problem or conflict in your intimate relationship or in your dating life, always refer back to these rules.), and see them being discussed on your favorite TV shows or in movies.But when it comes down to it, for me at least, dating rules are a personal thing and vary from relationship to relationship.But I’m not one to judge; I used to feel the same way. even though I knew better, even though I knew he was crazy about me, even though I was confident that he was “the one,” a part of me was absolutely terrified that maybe I was wrong, maybe I would screw this up just as I had screwed up so many relationships in the past (him included; we dated in high school and it ended because I wanted things to be more serious …and he wanted to be a teenage boy and live in a world where “serious” wasn’t part of his vocabulary).I have identified the following rules to change the approach:1. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only puts themselves down? If men aren’t interested in you, it probably isn’t because you aren’t a supermodel, it is probably because they can see how you feel about yourself.
Committing even to two simple rules daily can help you stop ‘reacting’, which is what often happens when you’re always just going along with the flow with no self-guidance and standards for yourself.
I see women who continually find men who, for whatever reason, never step up to treat them the way they deserve.
I realized that it had very little to do with the men, but more to do with how the women approached dating.
To help give you some peace of mind and an understanding of what lays the foundation for a lasting, happy relationship, here are some basic rules to follow for a new relationship (some of these might also help you if you’re single, or even in a committed relationship).
Fortunately, most of the feedback I get on my advice is positive, but when I do get negative feedback it’s usually from women who didn’t follow this step …