Sadly, many of the guys from OKCupid whom I’ve actually had “official” committed relationships with, were super quick to re-activate their profiles once we broke up.It’s somewhat ego-crushing to see your ex get back on the horse so quickly.“We had plans for Monday and it couldn’t come soon enough.” But just before they were due to meet in person, Nashawaty decided to give him a quick search online, as the majority of us do when it comes to online dating.And that was when she saw it: “This uber cute guy I had a date with IN TWO DAYS had robbed a bank less than a year ago.” But she’s not the only one who’s had close shaves - a few months ago a friend was set to go out with a Tinder date when she googled him and found out he’d nearly gone to prison for glassing someone in a club two years earlier.With one of my exes, the difference in how I viewed his profile pre-dating and post-relationship was pretty extreme. I’ll just preface my commentary with a disclaimer: I know relationships are a 2-way street. I contributed to an unhealthy dynamic by…umm, let’s see, by…well, by just BEING there.I’ve been mulling over how to write about this without sounding bitter. For about a year, I really should have been somewhere else. Dude didn’t change his profile one bit— it’s the exact same one that captivated me back then.
Hey, he realized the dating scene can be deadly—but this is ridiculous!
It was experiences like this that made Nashawaty realise there was a market for professional background checks before meeting your online dates.
And the stats make for pretty convincing reading too: And that may not just be saying they’re six foot when they’re really five foot eleven.
Stories abound of people running into trouble on dates having not done their research - perhaps you’ve met up and found out your match wasn’t who they said they were, perhaps you’re feeling threatened or perhaps you just want to escape but aren’t sure how.
Last year, the UK's National Crime Agency revealed that crimes linked to online dating had increased by 450 per cent in five years.