After finding out from the doctor at the hospital who flipped me over, lacerated the bumps and bottled the liquids for analysis, I immediately texted said boy and told him to get checked out, because I had some type of herpes.He promptly told me this was the worst news he had ever heard, and we broke up two short weeks later.Q: I've been seeing this girl and we've really been hitting it off. But my gut reaction is to ghost and never look back—I don't want herpes! – Jason, San Antonio A: Finding out your partner has herpes can be a bombshell at any point in the relationship. But it is not nearly as unique or earth-shattering as you think it is. I know there a lot of thoughts and anxieties swirling in your head—about your partner’s health, about your health, about your partner’s fidelity, about your future (or lack thereof) with your partner—and we’ll get to all that. My head tells me to handle this like a mature gentleman.
Genital herpes has a huge social stigma, and your partner is probably very embarrassed about it, and you're worrying about it. Here's some tips and advice before dating someone with herpes or if you are currently dating someone with herpes. Most people (like 70%) with genital herpes don't even know they have it. If you follow all these preventative measures, the chances of getting the herpes virus is like less than 3%.If you’ve been physically intimate, freaking out was probably your first reaction (Do I now have herpes? Then come the other questions: Is herpes a deal breaker? But first, let’s get straight on what herpes is and what it isn’t.Are you stupid to continue a relationship with someone who has herpes? There are two viruses that people talk about when they talk about herpes: Herpes Simplex Virus 1 and Herpes Simplex Virus 2, or HSV-1 and HSV-2.They also told me, since HSV1 is incredibly common, it’s nothing to stress about.I have not had an outbreak since the original one and have a feeling it probably won’t come back. Got the all-clear on the virus in late 2013, but have still had bad pap results.