I guess that’s why I told my wife I loved her on our second date. This fire was burning in me, a fire that burned just like that second date: I was in love. Marriage, quicker than I was ready for, did this thing: it started sucking away that emotion. In other words, it was in the practicality that I found the love I was looking for. That fire I felt, it was simply that: emotional fire. I think that might be a big part of the reason the divorce rate is so high in this country. It’s time that we changed the conversation about love. Because until we do, adultery will continue to be common. I had tried really hard up to that point to hold it back, honestly. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to. In the last part of this article the role of the Internet in Israeli religious politics, and by its uses by fundamentalist and radical Jewish groups, is surveyed.The Abrahamic religions oscillate between two basic attitudes to the phenomenon of Internet - concern and pragmatism.Thus, Rav Kushnir played a crucial role in Toldos Yeshurun's development, whose manifold programs today far exceed home classes, and has returned hundreds of Russian families across Israel to a Torah life in only 6 years since the organization's founding."Save our desperate daughters," proclaims the cover article in issue 521 of Mishpacha [family] magazine, an English-language, ultra-orthodox journal.I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. Like most Hasidic Jews (we both became religious later in life), our dating period lasted a very short time. I mean, how you can feel that burning love when you’re sitting at the table discussing how to use the last twenty dollars in your bank account? How can you feel it when you think it makes perfect sense to put your socks on the floor after you’re done with them, and she has this crazy idea that they need to go in the laundry basket? And now, as I’m a bit older and a bit more experienced with this relationship, I’ve finally come to realize something. There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable.
We provide original and unique programs dealing with Judaism, news, magazine, women, children, Torah and science, viral, culture and more.Suddenly, the next moment, sounds of laughter resonate through the audience, a crowd hundreds strong, comprised of both Russian Jews already committed to Torah, and their not yet religious brethren.The lecturer glibly guides the crowd from deep intellectual analysis to a moment of honest and humorous self recognition.His name is Rav Asher Kushnir, who serves as lectururer and Shidduchim/Shalom Bayis Advocate par excellence for the Toldos Yeshurun Kiruv organization, which he helped found.The Toldos Yeshurun organization, under the current spiritual leadership of Harav Ben Zion Zilber, was founded in 2000 under the direction of Rav Yitzchok Zilber zt"l and the initiative of Gedolei Yisroel Rav Eliyashiv, Rav Steinman, Rav Kanievsky, and Rav Auerbach shlit"a, with the guiding principle that Russian speaking Bnei Torah could successfully reach out to their nonreligious brethren because of their common language and cultural background. But it wasn’t that she wasn’t giving me love, it just seemed to come at different times. I don’t think I noticed this consciously for a while. And after each time, there would be this look she would give me. It wasn’t something I could force, just something that would come about as a result of my giving. And how much I’m sure those messages are bouncing around in other people’s heads as well. Living Disney movies in our minds, and tragedies in our lives.