In Vault’s 2015 Office Romance Survey results, 14 percent of over 2,200 respondents had career paths obstructed by an affair with a coworker.Of those who participated in office romances, the affair ended 23 percent of their marriages.They didn’t have a strong male role model growing up. Just like women deal with slut shame, men deal with predator shame.
Mild-mannered to the point of being physically incapable to voice his opinions or assert himself, Toby can be somewhat mournful about his life choices (he fell into the field of Human Resources after leaving his training at seminary in order to pursue the woman he'd later marry and painfully divorce).
This is so deeply ingrained that some men can’t introduce themselves to women. Hell, they won’t even make eye contact with someone they like. It doesn’t help that their worries are now being reinforced in adulthood.
Viral articles put men down for learning to be more confident and meet women.
I hate so much about the things that you choose to be." For Toby's going away party in "Goodbye Toby," Michael gives him as a gift a rock with a note attached reading "Suck on This!
" Shortly after arriving in Costa Rica, Toby suffers a zip-line accident and midway through season 5, he returns to his old job at Dunder Mifflin, much to Michael's fury.