Photo: Nan Palmero “TRYING TO DATE JORDAN is like trying to lasso jello,” my father once told friends who wanted to set me up. The past 10 years have made me that way: independent, particular, cynical, and maybe even smart. I’ve made mistakes, watched my friends misfortunes, and come out of it unscathed and single on purpose. Here’s what I wish I knew before I entered unchartered territory nine years ago.While it’s been a long, messy road from 20, I’ve made it to 29 without leaving too many of my heart pieces scattered across the globe. You can’t see the train wreck when you’re on the train, but your family and friends can. The guy who Instagrams pictures of himself shirtless. The guy who spends like a drunken sailor — on his parents' dime. The dull guy whose only positive attribute is taking you out to fancy dinners. Without him, you might have to eat Cup O'Noodles, but you will not have to eat your 18. Most people use their 20s to figure out what it means to be an adult, and the process is certainly not easy for everyone.Whether you're finishing up school, just starting out on your own, or preparing to transition into your 30s, you can benefit from the wisdom of those who've already made their way through all of it.
While you can’t let them decide whom you date, it’s worth listening to what they have to say.
Here are some truths you need to know if you're about to head out into the dating pond in your late 30s. These are the bachelors that hit late-30s and into mid-40s and suddenly realized, "Oh snap! And now that I am all grown up, I think it's time I settled down.
I think I will pick a nice 25-year-old." Even though you're their age or even quite younger than them by years, you're still old to them. The right one won't care that you're not in your 20s, absolutely, and you're not old, but yet there are guys who will completely shut you down, especially online, if you're a year over his age range. A lot of the allure of the young woman comes with an assumption of fertility.
It’s a hot mess in the 20-something dating jungle; you won’t get through these 10 years without having a relationship with someone who’s crazy.
We all have our quirks, but this person has blatant red flags.