Sailors have always been intriguing people - sailing all over the world on a ship, fighting in wars, dealing with pirates, seeing places some people only dream about.Due to the nature of their work, however, dating one can be rather difficult, especially if you have little or no background with the military.) 3 years as I talk to more and more military significant others who have successful relationships. Some of us genuinely like it; others of us put up with it because it is a condition of being attached to the person we love.And I want to be clear: those of us who date or marry someone in the military are no better or worse than any other significant other.
If you’re teetering on the edge of this particular path, think through the lifestyle before you jump in:(And don’t date him/her if you believe that “everyone cheats” during deployment.) Period. (So do people in the civilian world.) But that doesn’t mean everyone does, that we all agree with it, or that it’s even the “norm.” You will be separated from the person you love at some point during their career in the military. It’s okay to get frustrated, be angry, and cry, but you’ve got to pick yourself up and move on.3) If you are someone who needs to live close to your family, do not date or marry someone in the military. Do not anticipate that you will get them to leave it and do something else.You will move a lot, potentially in far flung places around the world. 5) If you have a very defined career path that requires a specific location & number of years spent in one place a military partnership will make that very difficult. If you want a big career that demands you live in a particular area, or long years in one place, don't date people in the service.Make a different choice or find a way to become more independent.2) If you do not want to spend prom, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, babies births and holidays without your significant other or future spouse do not date someone in the military.Expect sleepless nights, and bouts of being on the receiving end of awkward silences. You need to try your hardest to understand, get him to eventually talk about it (preferably to a professional) and pretty much avoid all triggers — like war movies. You will be inundated with more random facts about places like the Middle East or the South than you care to cram into your brain. I won a round of trivia just because I knew the currency in Bahrain. I am a sucker for someone who is passionate about his work. They are modern day heroes; if that’s not something to be proud of, I’m not quite sure what is! Basically, dating a Generation Y military man is no different than dating anyone else. His may be unimaginable to you, but that does not make him any better or worse.