Here's a list of some of the things you need to know about dating someone in med school. Just because they spend their entire week at the hospital doesn't necessarily mean they'll have any idea if that thing on your foot should be looked at. It’s obviously a very exciting time of life, and I’ve gotten a lot of questions about what it’s like to be engaged as a medical student.
There may be days or weeks that are harder to do that than others (for example, test week is almost never a good time for a date), but there are plenty of good times to have fun outside of school if you plan it right (for example, post-test weekends are the best time for dating).
Their classes and demands (if interning) have them at their weakest. Well, there's good reason for that..many of these doctors' hearts thrives on ego and self-worth, not compassion. Right cared no more for you than the rug on which they wipe their feet. It hurts to cut bait, but it's nicer when you're finally in control of the relationship! It was a strain on our relationship, and on me, as was his first year of residency.
Still, you're just a crutch to lean on as you bend over to lick their wounds of Dr. How many times have you/will you continue to put yourself through this? Trust me, it just gets worse and worse and worse!!! And, don't you ever, ever forget that in the dating game! (And that's in a pretty benign program--I simply can't imagine what it would be like in a malignant one.) Between his work schedule and mine, we barely got to see each other, and we were both exhausted and cranky a lot of the time. This year he's only working 70 hours a week, and it'll go down to 65 next year. More importantly, I think that we are worth it, and I'm confident that he feels the same way. Even though the training years are hard, there is a Brood X of med student that is dangerous. One red flag I failed to mention is when all they can do is talk about themselves without caring much to hear what's new in your life. But, objectively...there are warning signs I'd like to share with others in the shoes I once was stood in..the quicksand, too.
Dating a doctor-to-be is a challenge and an adventure.
There will be ups and downs, late night study sessions, and flashcards for days, and literal human bones, but you'll learn to love it.