) divorcés—to explain the many upsides to seeing a formerly married man.1. As a marriage unravels, "wives are pretty verbal about what they perceive their husbands did wrong," whether it be too much time at the office or being an awful communicator, says marriage and family therapist Rachel Sussman.
That's why, Iris, 62, who met her previously married husband on JDate, sees "being divorced as a strength…if the man has learned about himself and is able to embrace change," she says.2. Joining lives can go more smoothly with someone who's done so with someone else.
"Divorced men have experience sharing finances, a home and schedules. Talking about the future doesn't prompt most divorced guys to run for the hills the way it might lifelong older bachelors.
These can be great perks," says licensed psychotherapist Tina B. They're also more "willing to share their feelings and tackle the tough topics," says relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupids "Men who are divorced enjoy companionship that they were familiar with having been married before," says La Pronda, 43, who's dated both never-married and divorced men.
For one thing, they need time to get used to the idea that their mother has her own needs for companionship.
They need to get comfortable with the fact that she's not going to bring someone into their lives who will do them harm or ship them off to a boarding school in Brazil.
We asked experts—and women who've dated (and even married!
They also need to appreciate that the inclusion of a new male figure in their lifestyle doesn't diminish the importance of their real dad.
Early dates with your new love should be breakfasts or lunches when the kids are in school, or evening dates where the children have already been taken to a friend's house or the babysitter's before you arrive.
He said his ex wife is pretty mean to him but they try to get along because of the kids. At least he has been divorced for a couple of years now and not on rebound status anymore ;) Look at it like this and answer yourself these questions, do you like being around the kids? You are probably in question as far as how to act as a girlfriend in this situation.
That will scare you off in your own way knowing you have never been married.