Remember we all have personality traits, which does not make us personality disordered.Notoriously famous personality disorders discussed in films, courts, and domestic disputes are all part of the dramatic-erratic cluster: The Narcissist, The Antisocial, The Individual with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or a combination of two: Antisocial Narcissistic and/or Borderline Narcissistic.Here’s the pattern I’ve tracked, and you can let me know if yours is similar: Phase 1: It all starts with my idolizing the guy. Suddenly he’s perfect, we’re perfect for each other, everything’s so flipping perfect.I ride on the high of a new and dazzling possibility. Phase 2: He does something to rock my faith in the relationship. I’m terrified that this person who I was so sure would fix the emptiness I live with every day is going to leave me and it will hurt.
If our community valued sensitivity, and understood our responses to pain, we could enjoy life; we'd want to be present for it." —Mary Hofert Flaherty "Depersonalization is basically a defense mechanism, usually after some kind of trauma, but when you get chronic depersonalization — like I did — you get caught in that state for months. It's a sensitive brain combined with either trauma or invalidation.The film Fatal Attraction (quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close) and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.What do all the films and print stories have in common? Dating a person with BPD is not part of your deal – or so you thought.More often than not, we can lose sight of who we are.And sometimes, it’s as if we’re a whole different person depending on who we’re with at the time. We often have strong urges and impulses to do something that may affect us in the future.Jodi Arias – in my opinion, – a good example of a woman with quiet BPD (she functions superficially well but her chameleon-like façade breaks open once her relational views are challenged) murdered her ex-boyfriend Travis Alexander; Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction attempted to murder her former lover but failed and found her own death.