In this modern-day of technology, trying to meet someone for the purpose of developing a romantic relationship is proving to be a challenge.For many of us Baby Boomers the computer is viewed as an obstacle when it comes to matters of the heart.“The advent and proliferation of social networking sites and other social tools — Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, Tumblr, etc.— makes my life and my partner’s life far more transparent to the other person,” observes Adam Nelson, 23, a graduate student in Minneapolis, MI.Today, couples keep in constant contact through text messages and Facebook.They communicate with each other throughout the workday, while commuting home, or when they’re spending time with other friends and family.” This constant need for communication can really alter the texture of new relationships.From auto-correct to emojis, passive-aggressive punctuation to accidental selfies, technology has clearly changed the way we communicate.
Most of my clients and course participants are in their 50’s and 60's. Wendy Lyon is a psychologist, master certified relationship and life coach, workshop facilitator, speaker, and author. Wendy has been interviewed for newspapers, magazines, radio and television.
Coming from the Baby Boomer generation I believe that a balance of old school ideology, and Millennial modern-day attitude can coexist.
Yet, as time goes by the one area where there doesn’t seem to be equilibrium between the generations is dating.
(You can watch her TED talk on the subject here.)Not being able to see someone’s face changes the way we respond to them (this Louis C. Eighty percent of people surveyed agreed that a phone call counts as a conversation (something Headlee told me, via email, is her preferred method of communicating if technology has to be involved).
But while 67 percent of Millennials and 76 percent of Gen Zers (those born between 19) felt texting counted as conversation, only one in four Boomers felt the same way.